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So we grow up with these preconceived notions about how love is SUPPOSED to be…

August 28, 2009

When these photos on Disney’s fallen princesses by Dina Goldstein were made public, I think many mothers took action by hiding them from their own little princesses. After all, they weren’t exactly an accurate depiction of the singing fairytale maidens we’ve grown so accustomed to seeing. For starters, they were missing their singing forest friends.


I, however loved this photo series. It’s life after happily ever after. Is it slightly depressing? Yes. Is it perhaps. cynical? Yes. But what it does is tell the story AFTER prince charming rescues his damsel in distress. Nobody ever told me what could have or might have happened to them after their whirlwind romances, whether or not these Disney couples stayed together or drifted apart. So we grow up with these preconceived notions about how love is SUPPOSED to be, and how if them princesses (whom we religiously watched over, and over again) could have that, then why couldn’t we? Before we know it we are in our teens, looking for love, finding them in all the wrong places, or at least never being satisfied with what we come across.

Prince charming isn’t always charming. He might be during that honeymoon stage in every relationship (which is about the span of one of your favourite Disney stories), but once that honeymoon is over, the REAL test begins.


Do we then give up all hope of finding happiness that lasts forever and ever? Most definitely NOT, but what we can do, is learn to be more like Belle, one of my favourite Disney princesses. The only one that wasn’t in need of a prince, who valued her independence and yearned for adventure, only to stumble upon him to discover his most disgusting traits before loving him for who he was.

I am by no means a feminist. I do believe in women in relationships being able to be independent without having their lives evolve solely around their partners. I believe that women in relationships should seek to build their own character, grow in their convictions, and become more beautiful inside and out.

But most importantly, I believe in love. I am in fact in love, and it’s a wonderful thing. I might not have the fairytale relationship that I was taught was ideal, but what I do have is a real, working one. One that will hopefully see happily ever after (:

—guest post submitted by Poptart

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11 Comments leave one →
  1. August 28, 2009 4:51 pm

    Ha! I like the irony of these photos xx

  2. August 28, 2009 7:25 pm

    I looooooooove this photo series. And I remember loving it and wishing there were more photos when it came out. Adele, you are wonderful and you gave me more reason to love Belle! I personally relate to Aurora more.. blonde hair and I could actually sleep forever.. but Belle has a great personality and strong sense of self! 🙂

  3. August 29, 2009 4:04 am

    oh ive seen this photo series before and was actually happy that someone posted it! it really is true…disney and so many book series gave women unrealistic ideals of romance. hence so many broken relationships. but on the post side of it..dele you are such a talented writer. i loved reading this 🙂

    and i still cant get over this blog. what a wonderful idea 🙂

  4. dustjacket attic permalink
    August 29, 2009 7:01 am

    Very interesting post, liked the photo’s, especially the first, classic.

  5. August 29, 2009 10:00 am

    These pictures are amazing. I’ve seen them before, but they get me every time.

    And I agree with all that you said.

  6. August 30, 2009 4:14 am

    im so with you – i love this series. its a fun spin – and a realistic spin

  7. September 8, 2009 3:00 am

    I completely agree! I have had my brush with the happily-ever-after ideal, and it only made me unhappy before I realized it. In fact I wrote about this on my blog a while ago. (Sadly, I seem to have scared off readers, but then it might just be the effect of school starting again… 🙂

    Greetings,
    poet

  8. September 8, 2009 8:59 pm

    I hadn’t seen these before. Inspired.

  9. February 9, 2010 9:09 pm

    omg these are HILARIOUS

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